Shake Like You Mean It
Simple, a strong handshake means you command authority and respect. If you shake with a lifeless, feeble hand, the only thing I can think is – this woman is weak and unconfident, and I don’t really give a fuck what she has to say or what she’s about. Don’t give off the impression that you can be walked on or taken advantage of, shake with confidence. No you don’t have to squeeze extra hard, just shake like you mean it. Be happy, put on a smile, say hi, look straight into their eyes and let them know you mean business.
Have Star Power
If you want attention, that doesn’t mean you need to wear the skimpiest outfit, bleach your hair blonde and laugh out loud – literally, throwing your head back in the process. Be confident and command attention, don’t be an empty, attention whore. Speak with authority, clarity, be damn sure you know what you’re talking about and by all means – tell a good fucking story. When you can grab attention and hold it, anyone will listen to you, whether its to convenience your boss of your great idea, to sell a business plan, or get attention from a guy you have your eye on!
There’s nothing worse than a #FakeAssBitch. Be authentic, be real, and be you. Be unforgettable. Don’t be scared to show people who you really are, forget about putting up a fake façade because you think someone won’t like something about you. Who cares! Just how long do you think you can keep up that fake story anyway? Eventually you’ll have to be yourself. Life is too short to try and impress other people. Impress yourself. Tell it like it is, share your experiences and your story. If someone doesn’t like you, chances are you probably wouldn’t like them anyway. You’ll not only feel better about being yourself, you’ll also attract the right people and the right opportunities into your life.
Speak Your Mind
Sitting on the sidelines and never giving your own point of view, will only end up in disappointment. Don’t be passive aggressive and sit on the sidelines, watching as life passes you by. If you don’t give your opinion people will begin to think you don’t have one. What’s worse, agreeing with the majority even when you don’t agree just because you’re scared of how you think you’ll be perceived.
Always speak up for what you believe in, or ask for what you want. Holding in your opinion and not speaking up can lead to unwanted stress, frustration and anger that can build up more and more over time. The result, you become a ticking time bomb – ready to explode. And more than likely that explosion will go off on someone close to you that doesn’t deserve it!
Not making decisions usually comes from a lack of experience, but if you never make a decision you’ll never gain any experience. Don’t be a fence sitter, take a deep breath and jump. Don’t be afraid to fail, or to make the wrong choice. If things don’t go exactly as you thought, it’s ok you’ll learn from the experience and be able to make a better decision next time.
I’ve often made decisions that didn’t turn out – jumped jobs for the wrong reason, left jobs without a clear back-up plan, moved cross country for a relationship that didn’t quite end up as I wanted it to. From all these decisions, I’ve experienced pain, suffered, but also come out on top! I’ve learned what I like, what I don’t like, what I’m really good at and really bad at, what I need help with and ultimately what I want most.
Own Your Style
Don’t blend in with the crowd. Always be original in your delivery. I use to wear pencil skirts, button up shirts and high heels to my stuffy corporate office job. Nowadays, I run two departments, work with professional athletes, chefs, nutritionist and clients, and I can tell you I have ditched the uncomfortable corporate look a long time ago. I didn’t like conforming to the norm, nor did I feel like I was being myself. That doesn’t mean I wear lululemons to the office but I do wear sneakers, jeans, funky tops, scarves with skulls and do have a sick work bag that is leather with studs.
I don’t give a fuck, and despite my age, I don’t feel I need to dress a certain way either. Who made that stupid rule up anyway? I dress how I feel most confident, comfortable and productive! I love my fierce, sexy style – I own it. Bottom line – be comfortable, wear what you like and don’t blend in with the rest. It’s unimportant and won’t get you more noticed anyway.
Rock Your Assets
Play up your assets, and forget about wishing what you think you should look like. For a long time, I always wanted to be taller, thinner, prettier, what a waste of energy that was. Why focus on things you can’t change, instead focus on what you can make better. Own what you were naturally given, and enhance how you like!
I’m short, curvy and work hard on my body to keep those curves tight and lean. No, I don’t workout like a crazy person anymore, I just have way too many priorities. But I do still workout to keep my body, lean and trim. I never liked having short hair, so yeah I got extensions, cause I like long hair. I always felt inadequate in the boob department, so yeah, I have implants. I don’t feel bad about it, I feel more confident. Don’t let other people’s insecurities about themselves make you feel bad about how you look or what you want to do. That’s their issue – not yours! Shake what your mama gave ya, embrace it and if you don’t like something, change it.
Have a Well Thought Out Plan
There’s nothing worse than a girl who can’t take care of herself. Don’t wait for your prince charming to come and save you. Chances are he won’t. Have a well thought out plan for your life and your dreams, that’s not saying it doesn’t include a significant other, but in no way should you ever give up your dreams and aspirations for someone else. If they really care about you, they’ll support you in your pursuit of your own goals. Your plan should include every aspect of your life. Think hard about what you want, what your passionate about and what you believe you were put on this earth to do. Life is too short to go through it following in someone else’s footsteps than to carve out our own unique path. Plan it, do it.
Commit to Your Vision
Being focused and completely believing in what you want shows commitment. No matter what happens along the way, being positive, trusting in your vision and leading by example is a form of empowerment. Being relentless and resilient, means you give it your 150%, you believe in yourself and you’re willing to go the distance no matter what the outcome. This kind of commitment will scare away those that aren’t on board! Pick and choose what you do with your time and who you spend your time with! Put in the extra hours, learn a new skill, develop a product, craft your own brand. Life should be about living your passion and sharing your expertise. Be a powerful woman, a trailblazer, an influencer, a motivator.
Be a Fit Boss Babe
Living a healthy, fit lifestyle is essential to being a boss babe. No, you don’t have to have a rock hard set of glutes and a six-pack you can wash your clothes on, but you do need to be lean, trim and confident in your own skin. What’s more a lean and muscular body means you’ll not only be able to do pretty much anything, like open that jar of olives for your martini, but you’ll also have a much higher metabolism, increased energy levels and overall feel much more confident! And when you have more energy and more confidence – uh yeah you can pretty much do anything right? Not to mention you’ll also have some pretty awesome after effects of a consistent workout – like looking like you’re still in you’re twenties. Commit to workout 4 to 5 times per week using a combination of strength training, aerobic conditioning drills and high intensity interval training such as sprints.
Eat Your Veggies
Following a healthy diet including plenty of fresh vegetables, fruit, high quality proteins such as salmon, whey, lean beef and good for you fats such as olives, avocadoes and nuts is a necessary step in your boss babe life. When you eat right, you fuel your workouts, your recovery and even your brain. Eating processed empty foods leads to long-term health problems, hormone issues, low energy levels and mood swings. Following a high protein, low to moderate carb diet will not only keep you lean and trim, it will also give you the energy you need to go the distance. That’s not saying you can’t enjoy the occasional treat, apply the 80/20 rule! Eat healthy and clean 80% of the time and allow for treats like a glass of wine, or chocolate 20% of the time. This simple rule will keep you on track, but will also keep you satisfied too.
Be You and Love Yourself
When it comes to being a boss babe with your life, it really comes down to discovering who you really are and loving yourself. It’s a journey, not a set destination. When your independent, follow your heart and live your passion, when you’re your own person, are not afraid to speak your mind and are not following the crowd, you will truly find your own path and your own happiness. Ditch the haters, hang with like-minded bitches that support you in your journey to greatness, and enjoy ride along the way.
Until Next Time…
Be Fierce & Rule the World,